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Slowing down




I need to slow down. This year has gone by so fast with so many things popping up for me to do or try to do. But also I have been helping others whether it is reading their books to review, critiquing their edits and attending writer’s meetings to mingle. It takes a drain on you and your own writings and other levels. You have to put what needs to be done in perspective whether that includes your writings, your family, your life and your health.

My body reminded me or has been reminding me the last five to six weeks that I am chronically ill for health wise I have been in a lot of pain. I’m in pain daily, it just varies from day-to-day. These last few weeks it has been intensified with no signs of relief.

I need to pay attention to it and give it the same love that it has given me over the years. So I will be slowing down. While I love helping people, I need to start saying no. After all, people have no problems telling me know when I ask for help, maybe I need to take a page out of their page. But not only that but when I see a new project or venture I need to evaluate it and if so be it tell myself no as well.

I need to pace and time myself daily and stop feeling bad if I don’t do certain things. This is hard when you are raised Catholic, the guilt is automatic. I will finish the projects that are in my folder at the moment, sadly there are a lot, and hopefully not add anymore to it so I can get centered again for I have lost that.

It’s time to have fun again.

Men in kilts


This past weekend it was the time of year for the Sixth Annual Highland Games. Or as I call it, “Men in kilt time,” Hubby and I packed up and left at 8 am, drove up the road a bit to enjoy the festivities. Here one would see

-Open stone toss

-Heavy weight toss

-Scottish Hammer throw

-Turning of the caper

-Sheaf toss

-Weight over bar

It is very entertaining and yet official at the same time. We had Daniel beat the world record in sheaf toss, having a new record of over 35 feet.


There is plenty of music, food, bag pipes and children dancing and singing. It is such a fun time, a great way to get out of the house, away from electronics and just chill for a bit. We left when started to close up for the day and arrived home in the late evening.



What made it even more fun is I ran across two of my friends so that meant the event of sitting down and chatting for a bit while eating.

I love the Highland Games, we been to four of them so far and look forward to it every year.

Our hectic lives: Slow down



I hit the ground running. Are you familiar with this phrase? It seems this has been my life lately and especially for 2014. By the time I go to bed I am exhausted. When did we get so busy? When did life rule our lives to the point we are just going round and round in circles like a dog chasing his tail? But yet we do.

I am a wife, mom, sister, daughter, daughter-in-law, a writer, a housewife, treasurer of my community watch group, organizer of my book club, run a writer’s group, freelance writer and photographer for a magazine in our county and a host of other things. I am sure you all can relate. The list is way longer then what I just wrote.

As cliché as this line is, take time to smell the roses, do we? We are so busy trying to multitask and getting so much done in a shorter time that not only do we hurt ourselves mentally and physically but we also hurt those around us. We spend so much time either online, on our phones or in meetings or going to meetings if someone came up to me and went boo I would scream. Being exhausted can become a state of mind if we are not careful. We need to slow down people. A time for us to recharge, rest and enjoy what is around us before it is too late. We already have regrets in our lives do we need to add more?

It is easy for us to say oh we will do it later. I can take care of that after this and this is done. But do we do that? Or do we just add more to our plates, striking three things off our to do list but adding four or five?

My son graduated from college this past Saturday and surprisingly I didn’t cry. I did for his high school graduation. I was so proud of my little man. There was a time we did everything together, he was my sidekick. But as we grew older and both our lives got busy that has weaned a bit. Having one child I can’t afford to let opportunities get wasted for before I know it, he will be away by miles and not be nearby.

Wake up call everyone. Slow down. Take a walk, enjoy a cup of tea, go for a walk, hit a movie in the middle of the day, or whatever suits your fancy. We are not getting younger in body but I hope to stay young in mind. I hope to be here a while. But not only for myself, but for my family and friend as well.