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I'm a traditionally and self published author. I write in the genre of children and YA at the moment but working my way up to adults. I'm a sports loving, photo taking gal who loves to sing/dance to my own enjoyment. I love to laugh even at myself. I am also owned by 8 birds and 2 hamsters, and yes they know it. :)

My computer is female: She doesn’t like me

As writers, we need to have a good working relationship with our computer. We need it to work just about flawlessly as we craft and mold our next novel.

However, I have noticed something occurring over the last few years. I discovered my computer is female. Yes, I know it is an object, and objects don’t have gender.

Let me explain.

My desktop and I have a decent work symbiotic thing going on. Well, until it decides it doesn’t want to work for me.

It seems over the last few years, my computer, on occasions, will break down or have an issue that I need to figure out. One where I will try the tricks of the trade I have learned over the years. Sometimes that works. Most times, it does not.

When all else fails, I ask my husband for help. To say he is a whiz with computers is a true understatement. He will sit down and try to do the same function that I tried and could not accomplish. He will do a complete analysis on other days and find there is nothing wrong with it. User error? Sometimes I am sure. But not all the time.

Here is one example that happened last week. I tried to print a recipe out. It was one sheet long. I hit print, and nothing happened. When my husband sat down, he asked me to show him what I did. He did the same thing. It worked for him.

What happens is it will work for him a large percentage of the time.

On. The.First.Try.

Yes, I will get various remarks from the peanut gallery. Knowing full well that I tried and it didn’t work falls on deaf ears.

If this happened once or twice or even a small handful of times, that would be bearable, slightly. But in the past year, it has been the norm.

The computer I have proclaimed is female, and she has the temper of a witch.

Yes, I know I have no concrete evidence, yet I know she is, she knows it, and it is clear as day she does not like me on certain occasions. And will only work when a male is at her keyboard.

When did you begin to feel you were an author?


I have had this discussion with members of my writing group. Some were more advanced with the mindset of if one writes, then one is a writer.

For me, it was when my first book was published. When I received my first royalty check, it just reinforced what I had told myself.

For many people in our circle, either of those reasons is the bar they set whether that person is family or friend. When one hears that repeatedly it is hard to break that mantra they have for you.

It takes a lot of work to write a book of any size. The easiest part is writing the darn thing. The work you put into a novel is minimal compared to the colossal amount of work left to do on the manuscript.

One still needs to do a vicious cycle of editing, revising, editing again, revising again, publishing and marketing your book.

Considering all that it takes if you write, you are an author. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Only when those people write books of their own will they truly understand and get where the rest of us are coming from to doing this. Maybe if they wrote a book they would not be so dismissive of others.

Imposter Syndrome: Has this crossed your mind as a writer?


Do we all know what this means?

According to the internet, it means this: Impostor syndrome refers to an internal experience of believing that you are not as competent as others perceive you to be

So, as a writer, do you or have you ever experience imposter syndrome?

It is a term I have seen a lot over the last few years talked about when it comes to my profession. After seeing this for the umpteenth time, I pondered if I have had this feeling wash over me.

Before I was first published, I had symptoms of this as I tried to get to this level- have a book out into the world.

I have had people in my circle, through their words and action, who thought this was me- an imposter. Things would leak out to where I suspected I was not able to do what I had set before me.

It is hard to overcome regardless of what your job is. Trying to do something and make a good go out of it is hard enough. To have thoughts creep into your mind as well as through others weighs a person down. Ir can make the task at hand much harder to accomplish and make someone stop.

Thankfully, the writers in my group gave me the boost I needed to continue onward regardless of when I felt I was an imposter.

If you ever have these enter your mind take a good hard look at  where you were and compare it to where you are now. I suspect that you have grown in ways you might not have noticed.